In Law or Out Law?

So I planned a wedding and contributed to another...survived my two kids marrying one week after the other! Now I've got 8 months to get ready for a new hood...Grandma HOOD! Life is happening so quickly, one incredible passage after the other. its usually in the quiet of night that things sink in or at least many times I try to force them in so that they will find a place in my heart. I now have Six months of mother in-law ship or mother out-lawlessness! some might call it :) in my "history". I'm in awe at where life has taken me. There is an incredible gratefulness for all that has filled my life. What is it to be a Mother in-law? Well I am trying to figure it all out. I have a son in-law and a daughter in-law. And with the incredible changes. I have to call them losses at times. Our whole family was upturned. Our lives depleted, our home got bigger it seems but the voids are very echoing. I've made the mistake of comparing my mother in-lawness to other mother in-laws. Don't do it, read this and learn. Comparing oneself is not good, comparing ones experiences is not good. I'm still trying to decide what this title has done for me. Or what I'm doing for it....With grandma soon to be another name for me I hope that mother in-lawness will not worry me so.