I have recently found that milestones come when they come if you're not ready or expecting them they fly right by and you didn't get to celebrate the moment. This year is another year of milestones in my life. Last year was a year of "what are the odds of that happening?" and I was caught unguarded. Then after the whirlwind, I was wearing the dreaded "mother in-law" badge
But as the year progressed, to my utter amazement I not only survived I found moments of peace and joy. Although the "mother in law" badge is a difficult one to wear I'm learning new ways and good ways to improve the mother in-law image. I am not sure if there is a mother in-law out there that doesn't fall into that ugly pit of meddling, comparing or criticizing. You know that one that has given mother in-laws around the world a bad name. I had the "opportunity" or was "sentenced" to "mothering" a daughter in-law and a son in-law at the same time. Which in a very unique way turned out to be a great tool that is helping dig me out when I do throw myself into that nasty pit. Every time I wanted to criticize my daughter in-law for not knowing how to make something simple like Mexican rice, I was reminded that my own daughter was struggling to make an edible and appealing rice (which I thought I had taught her the basics). I was quick to point an accusing finger at my son in-law when he failed (in my opinion) to take care of some of his wives' basic needs and she was looking haggard or tired or undone, someone would inevitably say "Wow, Jonathans (who is my newlywed son) wife is looking pretty tired. Maybe she's not getting enough rest? or enough to eat?!" I quickly learned that when you point a finger you get three pointing back at you! Either we taught our children well and they are living out the roller coasters of life and marriage OR we threw them out there to the hardships of life with no anchor. We didn't we prepared them as best as we could with good godly foundations.
So, at the start of a new year while I'm still juggling my mother in-law badge trying to get it on perfectly :) and wearing it with continual hope that the "in-law" part will only exist because of distinguishing necessities. You know that my added children will know and feel my heart is for them like a second momma instead :) In the midst of this badge my son has given me another one to wear! I am the proud Grandmother to a beautiful baby girl! This one isn't as difficult to put on and it does remind me that mother in-law badge testifies of family and heritage and next generations. I can't wait to show that beautiful little girl off!
Congradulations! Your doing a fabulous job under both titles, in my opinion. Keep up the good work and get some sweet pics of your precious grand baby on this blog to share with the world:)
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